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How to Deal With Difficult People Without Going Insane

Monday, September 8th, 2008
by Sck

Author: Bo Sanchez

More than 300 comments!
Many of them emotional. Pained. Smudged with tears.
Okay, that’s not true. Blog comments on the web don’t get wet. But I imagined that if they  were  written on paper, they’d look like used tissue paper after my wife watches a Bea Alonzo-John Lloyd  telenovela . (You can read the flood of comments in my previous post, Do You Have A Difficult Person In Your Life?)
It seems like everyone on the planet has a difficult person to strangle, er, I mean to grapple with. But many answered my question, “What special gifts do Difficult People give you?”
I loved your answers! I sifted through all your comments (Yes, I read every single one of them) and found 4 fantastic gifts that difficult people give to us. I just compiled your comments—so a big thanks for being my wonderful research team!
I could list down a hundred gifts, but keeping the list short will make it easier to appreciate.
Are you ready?
Here are the big 4 gifts you receive from difficult people. (Note: Check out especially Gift #2, because that’s what many people  don’t  do…)

Gift #1:
Difficult people can teach you how to love,
preparing you for Heaven!

- You learn to become more patient, more understanding, more persevering.
- You have pity for them because you realize that “Hurt people hurt people”
- You learn to see the good qualities even among difficult people.
- You learn how to be compassionate as God is compassionate.
- You learn how to forgive, to remove bitterness from your heart.

Gift #2:
Difficult people can teach you to protect yourself
and learn to say “No” to abuse.

- You learn to love yourself, respect yourself, by no longer allowing abuse.
- You learn to be courageous and stand up against bullies.
- You learn to give tough love—refusing his abuse again. It may be the most loving thing you can do for a difficult person.
- You wizen up, learn tact, and learn how to distance yourself from harmful people.

Gift #3:
Difficult people can help you
get to know your weaknesses.

- Difficult people remind you that you too could be difficult to others.
- Difficult people teach you many important lessons in life. By seeing the tragic results of their actions, you’re inspired to do the very opposite of what they do.

Gift #4:
Difficult people can bring you closer to God.

- Difficult people force you to pray a lot. (“Lord, help! I can’t take it anymore!”)
- Difficult people force you to trust in God. (“Lord, I give up! I’ve done everything but she’s still a monster…”)
- Praying for difficult people may not change them, but YOU will.
- “Your cross (difficult person) is your key to heaven…” St. Poveda
- You realize that YOU are God’s difficult person—yet you’re still loved by God!
Friend, God allows difficult people into your life to give you these 4 gifts.
Don’t miss receiving them!
In my next blog, I’ll share more personally about a few difficult people in my life, and how I dealt with them.

May your dreams come true,
Bo Sanchez

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How to Cope With Stress in the Workplace

Monday, September 8th, 2008
by Sck

Author: Debbie Denison

Stress in the workplace can be both beneficial and detrimental. In a beneficial way, it keeps us motivated and productive. This type of stress can make our jobs more rewarding by allowing us to rise to new challenges. It normally follows a pattern of heightened activity, followed by a return to a natural and relaxed state.
Detrimental stress, however, can negatively impact our mental and physical health. It is one of the main reasons employees miss work, and costs the UK around £11 billion a year according to the Confederation of Business and Industry (CBI). So what causes this negative stress and what exactly can you do about it? Workplace stress can be caused by a number of things including long working hours, poor working conditions (including too much noise), harassment, too much or too little to do, and a lack of support or direction. These factors can leave employees feeling undervalued, exhausted, and worried.
All is not lost, though. There are some simple things we can do both at work and outside of work to reduce our stress levels. At work, you can take a few minutes away from your desk. If the weather is nice, go outside and get some fresh air. If there is a park or green space near your office, have your lunch there. Invite a colleague and you can both unwind and relax during your break. Don’t have large meals or fatty meals for your lunch. Eating sensibly at lunch will give you the stamina to make it through the day. Drink lots of fluid, cups of tea do count as fluid intake but drink decaffeinated if possible.
Outside of work, get plenty of rest. If you have trouble sleeping turn the telly off an hour before bed and read a book instead. Relaxation techniques such as deep breathing, tai chi or yoga will help return your body to a more natural state. Have a relaxing massage, which will ease your muscular tension and melt away those niggling aches and pains. And finally, maintain a positive attitude. Think about what you have accomplished instead of focusing on what remains to be done. Take each day as it comes and you will attain a clearer perspective on the tasks ahead.

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About the Author:
Debbie Denison is the Marketing Manager for
Body Tissue Service  in London. BTS offers luxury mobile massage and beauty treatments to homes, offices, and residents in London. Visit our
web site  to book a massage or to learn more about the therapies available.

The Right Way of Touch : Touch Meditation

Monday, September 8th, 2008
by Sck

Author: Vijay kumar Raisinghani

We all know that God is Omnipresent and Omnipotent, that God is present everywhere and in all times. We all agree unanimously on this fact and appreciate the fact too. On the backdrop of this fact, another reality also pops up. And that is if God is everywhere, then he is also in me, right here, right now and in all of us. And this very body is a divine temple where the God exists in his full glory.
So, if I am on the lookout for God, would it not be a good idea to start seeking for him from my own body itself, which is the nearest place where I can find him? I would definitely find him quickest and easiest if I start from my own body rather than seeking him in far off places. Why seek for pennies elsewhere when the Diamond is in my own pocket?
Scriptures and holy men have always talked about dissolving our ego and any I-ness and My-ness with the body. We have also been told that our body is a bag of filth and we are not body. So many of us start to have a condemning attitude towards the body. But this is a wrong attitude. This is not the way to treat our body.
Our body is not OURS. It is the vehicle given to us by God. So, is it right to hate it? We all love God right? Then is it right that we hate the gift given to us by him? Is it right to love the CREATOR but hate his CREATION. Definitely Not. Hence, We should not have a relationship of repulsion or attachment with our body, but a relationship of love.
We can develop a relationship of love with our body using a Beautiful Tantric Meditation called  Touch Meditation  or  Sparsh Meditation . ‘Sparsh’ means touch in the ancient language of Sanskrit. In Modern times this meditation technique has been re-invented and gifted to the world by the Contemporary Enlightened Mystic –  Shri Anandmurti Gurumaa .
Touch Meditation involves watching the body in a different light and attitude. We watch it with love and learn to detach ourself from the body with love. Once we are able to see it as a Temple of God, the holiest of Holy, then our mind also desists from misusing our body for Carnal pleasures and causing damage to it through material temporary pleasures.
We come to realize that this body is a divine vehicle to bring love, peace and wisdom to this world. We start enjoying being in the body, rather than being unaware of our presence in it, which is the case now. We realise that it is a blessing, a grace. And once we realize this, we also develop great love, respect and compassion for others, even for birds and animals.
Touch Meditation  truly makes us a Loving, Non-violent and Meditative person. Our relationship with the body improves and we also get many health benefits like deep relaxation, cure from allergies, deeper sleep, better digestion and many more benefits. They come as an added bonuses. Our Eating Habits improve and we start eating foods that are beneficial for our body’s well being, rather than just for the taste of the tongue.
Touch Meditation is available in the form of a  musical video CD  with easy to do instructions. Each session of Touch Meditation takes us for a trip to heaven, the heaven which is our own body. Little did we know that watching our own body could be such a rewarding experience.
Touch Meditation is a science. The Science of communicating with our body. This ancient secret is now available for all to benefit. Meditation is no longer the monopoly of the Sages in the Himalayas, but we all can benefit from it. Shri Anandmurti Gurumaa has opened the doors of Mystery and made  Meditation  as easy as a Child’s play for the common man. Touch Meditation is one among the many jewels that she has in her  treasures  of Meditation.

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Vijay Raisinghani is a Successful Currency Trader in Jakarta, Indonesia. Besides being an Active meditator, his interests include Spirituality, Meditation, Buddhism and Zen. Check out  ,   and   for your free demo of Gurumaa’s Life Trasforming Meditation techniques.

“i Gotta” or “i Wanna”?

Monday, September 8th, 2008
by Sck

Author: Dr. Noelle Nelson

You’re up at 6:00 a.m. to feed the dog, water the plants, get the kids up, fed and out, yourself showered, prepped and ready, zooming out the door for another day of hassle, deadlines, demanding bosses/clients/customers, too much to do in too little time, and the refrain that reverberates through your brain like a bad song is “I gotta do this, I gotta do that” as in “I have to, I must do” – whatever it is.

You push yourself to get things done, you grit your teeth against the pressure of all these “gottas” because they don’t exactly let up as the day goes on. There’s kids/things to pick up or drop off, errands to run, chores to do, and all the at-home duties it takes to keep body and soul alive, whether you’re responsible for just yourself, or a brood of 10. You go to bed wound tightly around your pillow, muttering “I gotta get to sleep” as your nervous energy keeps you going despite your exhaustion.

Then you wake up and do it all over again.

And you wonder why you’re depressed. Why even vacation doesn’t do it for you, why you’re tired and dragging all the time. Yet some people are cheerful, upbeat and energized with even worse schedules and graver responsibilities than your own – how do they do it? Is it a genetic thing, you know, they have the happy gene and you don’t? Maybe. But the more likely answer is, they’ve discovered the power of “I wanna” versus “I gotta.”

You see, when you look at your life as an unending series of “I gotta,” all you see are obligations, and obligations are the opposite of freedom. It’s as if you mentally imprisoned yourself within the tight confines of duty, with no breathing room for inspiration or joy. Instead, take a step back, and look at the bigger picture.

What is it that you really want? Probably what most of us want – happiness for ourselves and our families, good health, some measure of financial security. Well, all those things that overwhelm you as the “gottas” are actually opportunities helping you achieve those things you want. Getting the animals, plants and living beings taken care of in the morning contributes to you and your family’s happiness and health. Meeting those deadlines, dealing with those bosses/clients/customers are ways you achieve that financial security you want.

The more you see your “I gottas” not as obligations, but as opportunities to get those things you want in life, the more you can say “I wanna” as in “I want to do” whatever it is that will bring those things into your life.  Free yourself from the joyless prison of “I have to” with “I want to!” and you’ll find yourself surprisingly energized, motivated and inspired.

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About the Author:
Noelle C. Nelson, Ph.D. is a respected psychologist, consultant, speaker and author. Her most recent book is “The Power of Appreciation in Everyday Life” (Insomniac Press, 2006). Her new book, “Your Man Is Wonderful (Free Press) will be released in January 2009. For more than a decade, she has helped people live happier, healthier lives through appreciation–at work, at home and in relationships. E-mail: , website:

Know your eating habits

Friday, June 27th, 2008

Diet and physical activity have a major effect on your cholesterol. Eating healthy foods and exercising regularly can help you lower your cholesterol or maintain a normal level. Likewise, lack of physical activity and poor food choices can send your cholesterol soaring.

Foods to Beware

Saturated fat is the main food culprit for high cholesterol. Saturated fats are mostly found in marbled meat, poultry with skin and full-fat dairy products. Experts recommend limiting saturated fat to less than 10 percent of your daily calories. Lowering your consumption of saturated fats has been proven to lower LDL cholesterol.

It is also important to be mindful of the cholesterol in food. Experts say not to consume more than 300 milligrams of cholesterol each day. Eggs, cheese, sour cream, butter, meat and poultry all contain cholesterol.

Lastly, the trans fat in packaged baked goods like crackers, cakes and cookies, fried foods and some margarine is a worry. The latest recommendation is to keep harmful trans fat intake below one percent.

Foods to Fill Your Plate

At the same time, there is a universe of foods that when eaten in abundance can help lower your cholesterol.

Fiber-rich fruits, vegetables, beans and oats all have proven cholesterol-fighting benefits. Studies have demonstrated that fiber lowers cholesterol. It also makes you feel full, which can help control weight. Experts recommend eating 25 to 38 grams of fiber daily, depending on your sex and your age. The U.S. Food and Drug Administration (FDA) lets oat makers put a “heart-healthy” claim on their products because of oats’ ability to decrease total cholesterol and LDL cholesterol.

Fish are low in saturated fat and high in heart-healthy omega-3 fatty acids that can help lower cholesterol. Experts advise eating at least two servings of baked or grilled fish each week. Wild salmon is a top choice because it is so healthful, but other good fresh fish to consider are flounder, trout, tuna and halibut. Walnuts and flax seeds are some non-fish sources of omega-3 fatty acids. In September 2004, the FDA okayed a “heart healthy” claim for foods with omega-3 fatty acids.

Soy foods such as soy milk, soy burgers, tofu and edamame (whole soybeans) may lower your risk of heart disease when eaten as part of a low-fat, low-cholesterol diet, according to the FDA. The advice is to eat 25 grams of soy protein each day, which is the equivalent of a little over three cups of soy milk.

Nuts, including almonds, walnuts, peanuts, pecans, macadamias and pistachios, help lower cholesterol. Experts believe this is due to the combination of polyunsaturated and monounsaturated fats they contain. When weaving nuts into your diet, keep in mind that they are caloric.

Experts believe that polyunsaturated fats (including nuts, seeds and safflower, sesame and corn oils) and monounsaturated fats (including avocados and canola, olive and peanut oils) may help lower your cholesterol when you consume them instead of saturated fats. All the same, nutritionists advise using all fats sparingly.


Working out on a regular basis lowers LDL cholesterol and raises HDL cholesterol levels. It also helps you achieve and maintain a healthy weight, which is beneficial not only for your heart health but for your overall health. Experts say to aim for at least 30 minutes of exercise each day.

Family History

Another risk factor for high cholesterol is genetics. Some people have high cholesterol because it runs in their family. If you have a family history of high cholesterol or heard disease, it is more important than ever to eat right, exercise regularly and maintain a healthy weight.

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