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Resigning in India

Friday, May 30th, 2008
by Ann

Well by now some wise crack somewhere has already thought of this and so there is already a site that occupies the niche area of teaching people how to resign in style. The only issue is that it deals with the west where people are a little more dignified when they leave or are they?

Anyways I don’t want to dwell on the west but talk about some of my experiences with resigning in India. I have never had the good fortune for resigning a number of times. I think I did it once and was very decent with my employers. Here is how I categorize them, however please note they are not according to any order, so don’t have any ideas.

a) Gayab - in Hindi means disappear. These are the kind who picks up offer letters cum work with you for sometime and one day - GAYAB. No information, nothing from them. I did have the rare instance of hearing that one such person had called the office and asked for his pending salary after a month.

b) Template Resignation - There are some who just cannot frame their resignation letter. Just like their resume, it is a template from somewhere. So they even forget to change customizable parts like names of places in the letter and so on.

c) Prompted by Daddy - Some letters are written in language that would have made an English teacher in the British Raj times a very happy man. So parents are nowadays even helping their children write their resignation letters just like their homework in school.

d) The Angry Man - This person experiences lots of animosity before leaving and so chooses to vent it on everyone including the door mat when he leaves the office. Reasons for anger could be many but the entire resignation episode is very stressful for these individuals. Long emails are sent to people who he has hated in the organization just before he stomps out.

e) Mr. Slimy - This smiling assassin exits very gracefully doing everything right including mentioning the name of the company he is going to. He even mentions the pay he is getting there, which is of course 3 times more than what he is getting here. You are fine with everything only to be rudely shocked to see him at the next client pitch sitting across you as the client or walking in as part of your competitor’s team.

f) Backpacker - This guy is totally fed up of working and feels burnt out. He just wants to get out of everything and use his savings to travel around the world as a backpacker and make up for lost time. He hopes to come back after a year rejuvenated and refreshed for a new job challenge.

g) The Sick Parent - This individual does not have the guts to resign so uses one of his parents as a scapegoat. Phones office early in the morning and informs office manager that one of his parents is very sick and so he cannot come it. That is the last you hear of this person.

h) The Forger - This individual picks up a letterhead from the office and cleverly puts his own experience certificate down, even signs it himself.

i) The Wingless one - I was lucky to read a letter written by one individual to his prospective employer about his need to fly and how his wings were being restrained in this office environment.

j) The Tomorrow Guy - This person resigns and wants to leave tomorrow. Period.

h) Resignation from Home - This person resigns from home via email and also copies the email to all the clients.

So the reason why I am posting this up is to make people understand that joining and leaving a company is part of life. No one expects one to stay forever, but resignation should be done gracefully. It is as simple as giving a letter, discuss your reasons for leaving, serve your notice period and leave with friends in your old office. If you have had a bad experience in the company, you still owe that company a graceful exit, cause they gave you a job which you were glad when you wanted one.

The sudden entry and exit culture of ours has to change as it is giving us a real bad name in the west. This is quite dangerous for our future if we do not change now.

Leaving the job

Second choice for job? Read this

Friday, May 30th, 2008

Some of you have had the experience of being second choice for a job. You know the story. This looked like the ideal job for you, and you spent much time and effort preparing for those interviews. Perhaps there were several rounds of interviewing with different people. Your excitement kept building as you got closer and closer to the prize. And then – you got the verdict. You came in second to someone else. Bummer! Whether the news was delivered through a personal phone call or you received one of those standard rejection letters, it still hurt.

What do you do next? The advice you expect to hear is, “Let go and move on to the next possibility.” Well – that is part of my suggestion for you. However, if you really wanted that job and honestly thought that it is an ideal situation for you, the first step is a letter something like this:

Dear Decision Maker,

Thanks for your consideration during the interview process for the position of Assistant Manager. I truly enjoyed our conversations and was excited about the possibility of working for you.

I was of course disappointed to learn that I was not selected, but I do wish you the best. Should that particular job become available in the future or another that requires someone with my qualifications, please do not hesitate to contact me. I would be happy to work for your organization.

Best wishes,
Job Seeker

Sometimes things do not work out with the first-choice candidate. For whatever reason, the organization may need to replace that person. They may be hesitant to contact others they interviewed and think that they need to begin their entire hiring process again. Your assurance that you are still open to their offer can be great news for them. And – it could mean the beginning of a terrific working relationship for you.

Every interview is a learning opportunity. Always debrief afterwards and use the knowledge you gain. Being invited to an interview affirms that you are a winner. Practice to win bigger every time!

Second choice.. No prob..

Redevelopment of vision can change the world!

Friday, May 30th, 2008

Envision your organisation's prosperity

One of the most important things we can do for our businesses, schools, and organizations is to have vision. Vision being a clear picture of a desired end result that you are aiming for.

However, sometimes, no matter how big our vision was originally, we find ourselves focusing in on the daily events that require our attention but have nothing or little to do with our ultimate vision.

Occasionally, we think to ourselves, “Hey, I’m not really getting any closer to my vision. I’m spinning my wheels here.” This is when it is time to re-develop your vision! Here are some helpful hints in doing just that.

Assess your strengths.

To achieve your vision, you and your staff will have to operate out of your strengths. If you are having a hard time moving toward your current vision, perhaps it is because the vision requires extended application of strengths that you and/or your organization don’t have. Either you need to hire into those strengths, develop those strengths, or re-develop the vision.

Reassess your original vision.

Maybe what you used to think wasn’t realistic according to your strengths, your abilities, or your circumstances. Maybe it is time to change or modify the vision to make it attainable.

Ask yourself where your passions lie.

If we are to attain great things, they must be aligned with those things that burn deep within us. Do you still have a passion for your vision? Does your staff have a passion for your vision? If not, you need to develop the passion, or find the vision that you can pour your passion into. Never underestimate the power of passion and excitement in moving you toward (or keeping you from) your vision.

Ask yourself what it is that you value.

What is important to you? How will fulfilling my current vision, fulfill my desire to do something important and worthwhile for myself, my family, my employees, and my community?

Break the vision down into easy to achieve steps.

This helps us see that the vision is attainable. It lets us know the end result, but focus intently into achieving the next goal. This, step-by-step, moves us toward the vision.

Vision can change the world

Live life your way… Get rid of job world…

Friday, May 30th, 2008

1. GET THE POINT – OF LIFE, THAT IS. How many of us will look back in our old age and wish we’d gone to more meetings or put in more overtime. The point? Despite pressure to “play it safe” by sticking with your day job (”…but dear, you have a good job, you want to be HAPPY too?”) you have every right to follow your entrepreneurial dreams. With the realization that life is for living comes the understanding that it is up to you – and you alone – to create the kind of life you really want.2. GET CLUED INTO YOUR PASSION. The most successful entrepreneurs love what they do. Haven’t quite figured out where your passion lies? Start paying attention to situations or things that grab and keep your attention. Focus less on your skills (what you CAN do) or your resume (what you HAVE done) and instead, try to tune into what it is you really LOVE and WANT to do. What types of things did you love to do as a child? What kinds of characteristics or talents do people compliment you on? What kind of work or lifestyles do you envy? If you don’t yet have the knowledge or skills to turn your heart work into a business venture, make it your business to fill the gaps.

4. GET A GRIP ON “IT.” In her book Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway, Susan Jeffers says IT isGet Grip what scares you – and ultimately, what’s holding you back from going after your dream. Perhaps your fear centers on money, or that you’re not “smart enough,” or that you’ll fall flat on your face. Let’s face it – shaking up your life is scary. Yet, “Unless you walk out into the unknown,” says Tom Peters, “the odds of making a profound difference in your life are pretty low.” So go ahead and indulge in your worst-case fantasy. Then get busy figuring out what steps you can take to prevent it from happening.

5. GET THE RIGHT PICTURE. Be honest. How much time do you spend bitching about your lousy boss, hellish commute and on and on? As satisfying as a good gripe session is, you’re wasting precious energy on the wrong picture. Five minutes a day spent visualizing your ideal work-life and fashioning a plan to get you there will move you far closer to your goal than 30 minutes of complaining about what you don’t want. Bottom line: You won’t see yourself doing it until you can see yourself doing it.

5. GET REAL. You’ve seen the easy money pitches: “Earn $1,000 a week stuffing envelopes in the comfort of your own home.” Sounds great, right? Now, snap out of it! Launching your own business takes time and effort. You should also expect a drop in income – at least in the beginning. Now is the time to revisit the ideal life you outlined in Step 2 and ask yourself, “How much do I really want my ideal life? What am I willing to do or give up to get it?” If you are serious about living life on your own terms, the sacrifice will be worth it.

6. GET READY. A goal has been described as a dream with a deadline. Take out a calendar.Get ready Even if you haven’t nailed down all the details, you should still go ahead and set a target date for when you want your “new life” to begin. Besides being a great source of motivation, knowing how much time you have between now and “D-ream day” lets you create a realistic plan for hitting it.

7. GET INFORMED. Change always seems scarier when you have either inadequate, or worse, inaccurate information. Go to the library. Join associations. Talk to people who have started similar businesses. Take classes. Read trade publications. The more informed you are, the less “risky” the risks become.

8. GET SUPPORT. Enthusiasm is contagious, but so is pessimism. Avoid the nay Sayers and try to seek out others who share your passion for living life on your own terms. Consider meeting weekly with other aspiring entrepreneurs to generate ideas, share information and help each other stay on track.

9. GET GOING. To keep from being overwhelmed – yet still make headway – break your larger goal down into more manageable steps. Then, no matter how hectic thing get, pledge to take at least one action a day. Even the smallest actions – jotting down a new idea, reading a single page, or making one phone call – start to add up. And, once you actually get the ball rolling, it’s hard to stop!

10. GET GRATITUDE. At the same time you’re setting your sights on achieving your future goal, be mindful of how much abundance you have in your life RIGHT NOW! Changing course is a journey. Count your blessings and enjoy the ride. When you think about it, it’s all we really have.

Live your own way

Overcoming pain of separation.

Friday, May 30th, 2008

Have you ever noticed how uncomfortable you feel when you do something for the first time? Remember your first day at school, the first time you rode a bike or even your first day at a new job? Change can be scary and that is why people avoid it so much. The reason you tend to cling to the familiar because it gives you a sense of security.It isn’t your fault. This is just the way your subconscious mind works. It resists change because your inner mind has a plan set for everything that is familiar. When you move out of your comfort zone, it sends alarms to bring you back to your old way of being. That is why it is so hard to lose weight, stop smoking, change careers, or leave someone who is not good for you, even when you consciously know it would be better. Your subconscious is not logical and attempt to return to the status quo because that is what it is designed to do. It is easy to just allow your inner mind to control your life. To overcome the urges and move away from the familiar can be a challenge.

When you move out of the familiar, tension builds in your body. If you give into fear and retreat, the subconscious has won again. You slip back into autopilot, but you still wish there was a way out of the trap you put yourself in. It isn’t that your subconscious is evil, this part of your mind simply repeats what you previously programmed it to do. Unfortunately, many of those programs were created when you were younger than ten and the logic for them is no longer valid. The biggest mistake that most people make is to perceive the tension as a bad thing and wanting to run away from it.

To move through change with poise, the uncomfortable feelings can be reframed in your mind as positive. When life starts to feel awkward and scary, it just means you are moving beyond the box that you made for yourself. The more at peace you can be with those awkward moments, the stronger you become and less affected by change. Ultimately, you will feel a sense of personal power increase and the willingness to tackle any obstacle.

Your sense of peace is not determined by external circumstances but how you feel about what is happening to you. Nervousness before a first date can be transformed into excitement of meeting someone new. The discomfort the first few days after quitting smoking can be interpreted as you finally resisting the need to soothe yourself with poison. The more you expand into new experiences, the easier it becomes to be invincible in anything in life.

Next time you start to feel uncomfortable, remember to smile and pat yourself on the back for your bravery. You can channel the feeling of fear into excitement, just like you have before going on a big roller coaster. After all, isn’t life supposed to be a wonderful ride, right?

Dealing with pain of separation



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