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Overcoming public speech nervousness

Saturday, June 28th, 2008
by Sck

The taxi was late, and you’ve only just made it to the reception. You’re breathing hard, your hands have gone all clammy and your heart is pounding so loudly you look around to see if anyone can hear it. The speeches have already started. You start madly fumbling in your coat pocket for your speech notes. ‘Oh no, where have they gone?’ Then it’s your turn. ‘Ladies and gentlemen, may I please have your attention for… the Groom!’

Don’t worry, there’s absolutely nothing unusual about feeling nervous - it happens to the best of us. I’ve known grooms who would rather jump out of an aeroplane at 10,000 feet than stand up in front of a room full of people. And I’m not only talking about men who’ve never had to make a speech in their lives. Many lawyers, doctor’s, teacher’s and even businessmen can suffer with nerves on their ‘big’ day. Then again, some groom’s seem to make it all look so easy - but just how do they do it?

The two essential elements to a successful speech are preparation and delivery. Put a little time and effort into both and you will end up a winner, and wonder why you ever doubted yourself in the first place.

>> Speech Preparation

1. Your speech should consist of an introduction, a body, and a conclusion. Write down your speech on paper well in advance (weeks) of the wedding. Have it proof read by family member or a friend.

2. Keep it short and simple, and leave them wanting more. Use your best material at the beginning and the end of your speech. Start and end with impact.

3. If you don’t know most of the audience, it’s a good idea to identify yourself, for example, “Hi, my name is John and I met Chris at college.”

4. Include fond memories of the bride and groom from your own past. If you’d like to make the speech funny, by all means do so.

5. DO NOT mention previous relationships that the groom or bride may or may not have had (don’t spread rumor or gossip).

6. The wedding speech should be concluded with joyful, heartfelt words.Wedding Speech Express your very best future wishes, acknowledge the joy you’ve experienced in seeing this couple unite, and your happiness in sharing it with them. Speak sincerely and from the heart, and you’ll never sound contrived.

>>Speech Delivery

1. Go into the reception with a positive attitude, thinking that ‘The audience are going to like me and I am going to like them’.

2. First impressions count. The first impression is the lasting impression, so the first few moments of interaction are the most important in the rapport building process with the audience.

3. Be conscious of your appearance. You wouldn’t want lipstick smeared over your cheek would you?

4. Body Language. Be aware of your own body language. Stand up straight and look confident, coat unbuttoned, arms and legs apart, palms exposed, leaning forward and smiling.

5. Make eye contact, by taking slow ’sweeps’ back and forth across the room as you speak, so that everyone will feel included. This is a useful technique is for reassuring the audience and winning people’s attention.

6. Think of your audience. Try to engage with them, rather than speaking ‘at’ them. How about a little audience participation, for example, if you know one or two faces in the audience, speak to them, using their names.

7. Be prepared for interruptions. Yes, they do happen, so enjoy them, particularly the funny ones. These ‘comedy breaks’ provide useful thinking time, and also people will remember your speech as the one that got the laughs.

8. Laughs. If you’ve made a funny remark and are expecting a laugh, then wait for it. If it doesn’t come, tell the people that they were supposed to laugh and refuse to continue until they do.

9. Slow Down And Take Your Time. Each sentence of your speech may seem to be taking forever to you, but will really only be a few seconds to your audience.

Have a history teacher explain this - if they can.

Saturday, June 28th, 2008

Abraham Lincoln

John F. KennedyAbraham Lincoln was elected to Congress in 1846.

John F. Kennedy was elected to Congress in 1946.

Abraham Lincoln was elected President in 1860.

John F. Kennedy was elected President in 1960.

Both were particularly concerned with civil rights.

Both wives lost their children while living in the White House.

Both Presidents were shot on a Friday.

Both Presidents were shot in the head

Now it gets really weird.

Lincoln ’s secretary was named Kennedy.

Kennedy’s Secretary was named Lincoln

Both were assassinated by Southerners.

Both were succeeded by Southerners named Johnson.

Andrew Johnson, who succeeded Lincoln , was born in 1808.

Lyndon Johnson, who succeeded Kennedy, was born in 1908.

John Wilkes Booth, who assassinated Lincoln , was born in 1839.

Lee Harvey Oswald, who assassinated Kennedy, was born in 1939.

Both assassins were known by their three names.

Both names are composed of fifteen letters.

Now hang on to your seat.

Lincoln was shot at the theater named ‘Ford.’

Kennedy was shot in a car called ‘ Lincoln ‘ made by ‘Ford.’

Lincoln was shot in a theater and his assassin ran and hid in a warehouse.

Kennedy was shot from a warehouse and his assassin ran and hid in a theater..Marilyn Monroe

Booth and Oswald were assassinated before their trials.

And here’s the kicker…

A week before Lincoln was shot, he was in Monroe , Maryland

A week before Kennedy was shot, he was with Marilyn Monroe.

Second choice for job? Read this

Friday, May 30th, 2008

Some of you have had the experience of being second choice for a job. You know the story. This looked like the ideal job for you, and you spent much time and effort preparing for those interviews. Perhaps there were several rounds of interviewing with different people. Your excitement kept building as you got closer and closer to the prize. And then – you got the verdict. You came in second to someone else. Bummer! Whether the news was delivered through a personal phone call or you received one of those standard rejection letters, it still hurt.

What do you do next? The advice you expect to hear is, “Let go and move on to the next possibility.” Well – that is part of my suggestion for you. However, if you really wanted that job and honestly thought that it is an ideal situation for you, the first step is a letter something like this:

Dear Decision Maker,

Thanks for your consideration during the interview process for the position of Assistant Manager. I truly enjoyed our conversations and was excited about the possibility of working for you.

I was of course disappointed to learn that I was not selected, but I do wish you the best. Should that particular job become available in the future or another that requires someone with my qualifications, please do not hesitate to contact me. I would be happy to work for your organization.

Best wishes,
Job Seeker

Sometimes things do not work out with the first-choice candidate. For whatever reason, the organization may need to replace that person. They may be hesitant to contact others they interviewed and think that they need to begin their entire hiring process again. Your assurance that you are still open to their offer can be great news for them. And – it could mean the beginning of a terrific working relationship for you.

Every interview is a learning opportunity. Always debrief afterwards and use the knowledge you gain. Being invited to an interview affirms that you are a winner. Practice to win bigger every time!

Second choice.. No prob..

Tale of a 27-year old Sarathbabu graduated from IIM-A

Monday, May 12th, 2008

When 27-year old Sarathbabu graduated from the Indian Institute of Management, Ahmedabad, he created quite a stir by refusing a job that offered him a huge salary. He preferred to start his own enterprise — Foodking Catering Service — in Ahmedabad.He was inspired by his mother who once sold idlis on the pavements of Chennai, to educate him and his siblings. It was a dream come true, when Infosys co-founder N R Narayana Murthy lit the traditional lamp and inaugurated Sarathbabu’s enterprise.

Sarathbabu was in Chennai, his hometown, a few days ago, to explore the possibility of starting a Foodking unit in the city and also to distribute the Ullas Trust Scholarships instituted by the IT firm Polaris to 2,000 poor students in corporation schools.

Sarathbabu describes his rise from a Chennai slum to his journey to the nation’s premier management institute to becoming a successful entrepreneur. This is his story, in his own words.

Childhood in a slum

I was born and brought up in a slum in Madipakkam in Chennai. I have two elder sisters and two younger brothers and my mother was the sole breadwinner of the family. It was really tough for her to bring up five kids on her meagre salary.

As she had studied till the tenth standard, she got a job under the mid-day meal scheme of the Tamil Nadu government in a school at a salary of Rs 30 a month. She made just one rupee a day for six people.

So, she sold idlis in the mornings. She would then work for the mid-day meal at the school during daytime. In the evenings, she taught at the adult education programme of the Indian government.

She, thus, did three different jobs to bring us up and educate us. Although she didn’t say explicitly that we should study well, we knew she was struggling hard to send us to school. I was determined that her hard work should not go in vain.

I was a topper throughout my school days. In the mornings, we went out to sell idlis because people in slums did not come out of their homes to buy idlis. For kids living in a slum, idlis for breakfast is something very special.

My mother was not aware of institutions like the Birla Institute of Technology and Science, Pilani, or the Indian Institutes of Technology. She only wanted to educate us so that we got a good job. I didn’t know what I wanted to do at that time because in my friend-circle, nobody talked about higher education or preparing for the IIT-JEE.

When you constantly worry about the next square meal, you do not dream of becoming a doctor or an engineer. The only thing that was on my mind was to get a good job because my mother was struggling a lot.

I got very good marks in the 10th standard exam. It was the most critical moment of my life. Till the 10th, there was no special fee but for the 11th and the 12th, the fees were Rs 2,000-3,000.

I did book-binding work during the summer vacation and accumulated money for my school fees. When I got plenty of work, I employed 20 other children and all of us did the work together. That was my first real job as an entrepreneur. Once I saw the opportunity, I continued with the work.

Life at BITS, Pilani

A classmate of mine told me about BITS, Pilani. He was confident that I would get admission, as I was the topper. He also told me that on completion (of studies at Pilani), I will definitely get a job.

When I got the admission, I had mixed feelings. On one hand I was excited that for the first time I was going out of Chennai, but there was also a sense of uncertainty.

The fees alone were around Rs 28,000, and I had to get around Rs 42,000. It was huge, huge money for us. And there was no one to help us. Just my mother and sisters. One of my sisters — they were all married by then — pawned her jewellery and that’s how I paid for the first semester.

My mother then found out about an Indian government scholarship scheme. She sent me the application forms, I applied for the scholarship, and I was successful. So, after the first semester, it was the scholarship that helped me through.

It also helped me to pay my debt (to the sister who had pawned her jewellery). I then borrowed money from my other sister and repaid her when the next scholarship came.

The scholarship, however, covered only the tuition fees. What about the hostel fees and food? Even small things like a washing soap or a toothbrush or a tube of toothpaste was a burden. So, I borrowed more at high rates of interest. The debt grew to a substantial amount by the time I reached the fourth year.

First year at BITS, Pilani

To put it mildly, I was absolutely shocked. Till then, I had moved only with students from poor families. At Pilani, all the students were from the upper class or upper middle class families. Their lifestyle was totally different from mine. The topics they discussed were alien to me. They would talk about the good times they had in school.

On the other hand, my school years were a big struggle. There was this communication problem also as I was not conversant in English then.

I just kept quiet and observed them. I concentrated only on my studies because back home so many people had sacrificed for me. And, it took a really long time — till the end of the first year — to make friends.

The second year

I became a little more confident and started opening up. I had worked really hard for the engineering exhibition during the first year. I did a lot of labour-intensive work like welding and cutting, though my subject was chemical engineering. My seniors appreciated me.

In my second year also, I worked really hard for the engineering exhibition. This time, my juniors appreciated me, and they became my close friends, so close that they would be at my beck and call.

In the third year, when there was an election for the post of the co-ordinator for the exhibition, my juniors wanted me to contest. Thanks to their efforts I was unanimously elected. That was my first experience of being in the limelight. It was also quite an experience to handle around 100 students.

Seeing my work, slowly my batch mates also came to the fold. All of them said I lead the team very well.

They also told me that I could be a good manager and asked me to do MBA. That was the first time I heard about something called MBA. I asked them about the best institution in India. They said, the Indian Institutes of Management. Then, I decided if I was going to study MBA, it should be at one of the IIMs, and nowhere else. Inspiration to be an

Entrepreneur

It was while preparing for the Common Admission Test that I read in the papers that 30 per cent of India’s population does not get two meals a day. I know how it feels to be hungry. What should be done to help them, I wondered.

I also read about Infosys and Narayana Murthy, Reliance and Ambani. Reliance employed 20,000-25,000 people at that time, and Infosys, around 15,000. When a single entrepreneur like Ambani employed 25,000 people, he was supporting the family, of four or five, of each employee. So he was taking care of 100,000 people indirectly. I felt I, too, should become an entrepreneur.

But, my mother was waiting for her engineer son to get a job, pay all the debts, build a pucca house and take care of her. And here I was dreaming about starting my own enterprise. I decided to go for a campus interview, and got a job with Polaris. I also sat for CAT but I failed to clear it in my first attempt.

I worked for 30 months at Polaris. By then, I could pay off all the debts but I hadn’t built a proper house for my mother. But I decided to pursue my dream. When I took CAT for the third time, I cleared it and got calls from all the six IIMs. I got admission at IIM, Ahmedabad.

Life at IIM, Ahmedabad

My college helped me get a scholarship for the two years that I was at IIM. Unlike in BITS, I was more confident and life at IIM was fantastic. I took up a lot of responsibilities in the college. I was in the mess committee in the first year and in the second year; I was elected the mess secretary.

Becoming an entrepreneur

By the end of the second year, there were many lucrative job offers coming our way, but in my mind I was determined to start something on my own. But back home, I didn’t have a house. It was a difficult decision to say ‘no’ to offers that gave you Rs 800,000 a year. But I was clear in my mind even while I knew the hard realities back home.

Yes, my mother had been an entrepreneur, and subconsciously, she must have inspired me. My inspirations were also (Dhirubhai) Ambani and Narayana Murthy. I knew I was not aiming at something unachievable. I got the courage from them to start my own enterprise.

Nobody at my institute discouraged me. In fact, at least 30-40 students at the IIM wanted to be entrepreneurs. And we used to discuss about ideas all the time. My last option was to take up a job.

Foodking Catering Services Pvt Ltd

My mother is my first inspiration to start a food business. Remember I started my life selling idlis in my slum. Then of course, my experience as the mess secretary at IIM-A was the second inspiration. I must have handled at least a thousand complaints and a thousand suggestions at that time. Every time I solved a problem, they thanked me.

I also felt there is a good opportunity in the food business. If you notice, a lot of people who work in the food business come from the weaker sections of the society.

My friends helped me with registering the company with a capital of Rs 100,000. Because of the IIM brand and also because of the media attention, I could take a loan from the bank without any problem.

I set up an office and employed three persons. The first order was from a software company in Ahmedabad. They wanted us to supply tea, coffee and snacks. We transported the items in an auto.

When I got the order from IIM, Ahmedabad, I took a loan of Rs 11 lakhs (Rs 1.1 million) and started a kitchen. So, my initial capital was Rs 11.75 lakhs (Rs 1.17 million).

Three months have passed, and now we have forty employees and four clients — IIM Ahmedabad, Darpana Academy, Gujarat Energy Research Management Institute and System Plus.

In the first month of our operation, we earned around Rs 35,000. Now, the turnover is around Rs 250,000. The Chennai operations will start in another three months’ time.

Ambition

I want to employ as many people as I can, and improve their quality of life. In the first year, I want to employ around 200-500 people. In the next five years, I hope to increase it by 15,000. I am sure it is possible.

I want to cover all the major cities in India, and later, I want to go around the world too.

I have seen people from all walks of life — from the slums to the elite in the country. That is why luxuries like a car or a bungalow do not matter to me. Even money doesn’t matter to me. I feel bad if I have to have food in a five star hotel. I feel guilty.

Personally, I have no ambition but I want to give a house and a car to my mother.

Appreciation

I did not expect this kind of exposure by the media for my venture or appreciation from people like my director at the IIM or Narayana Murthy. I was just doing what I wanted to do. But the exposure really helped me get orders, finance, everything.

The best compliments I received were from Narayana Murthy and my director at IIM, Ahmedabad. When I told him (IIM-A director) about my decision to start a company, he hugged me and wished me luck. They have seen life, they have seen thousands and thousands of students and if they say it is a good decision, I am sure it is a good decision.

Foodking Services PVT. LTD. by Sarathbabu

10 tips to earn like Warren Buffett

Monday, May 12th, 2008

“An investor needs to do very few things right as long as he or she avoids big mistakes.” Warren Buffett

One of the world’s most successful investors, Warren Buffett is the richest man on earth. Chairman of the Berkshire Hathaway, Buffett’s wealth jumped by $10 billion to hit $62 billion during 2007. Buffett’s life is an encouragement for investors across the globe.

So what makes the world’s wealthiest man so rich? Buffett believes that successful investing is about having common sense, patience and independent research.

A look into Buffett’s simple, yet intelligent mantras for investing and minting millions.

1. Focus on not losing money rather than making it. Don’t own any stock for 10 minutes that you wouldn’t own for 10 years.

2. A frugal billionaire Buffett believes in straightforwardness. He advises investors to take easy decisions. Never buy when you are doubtful. Invest only if you understand the businesses well.

3. A proponent of value investing, he believes that one must take decisions on his own. He doesn’t believe in listening to analysts or brokers. The best investing decisions come from oneself.

It is not necessary to do extraordinary things to get extraordinary results.

4. Buffett advises to invest in ‘old economy’ businesses, companies, which have been around for fifty years and will continue to have a long innings.

5. We have often heard of people suffering heart attacks when markets crash. Well, Buffett advocates a sound temperament for stock market success.

6. You don’t need to be a genius to succeed in the stock markets. People who can stay cool will succeed in the long run. Always keep in mind the hidden costs, from commissions on active stock trading to high mutual fund fees.

7. Buffett always looks at businesses he can understand; look at the profits in the past, long-term potential of the company, good top level management of the company and companies that have a good value proposition. The strategy is to think about the business in the long term.

“You are neither right nor wrong because the crowd disagrees with you. You are right because your data and reasoning are right.”

8. Invest in businesses with great management. Always keep a track of the management of the company. The top decision makers have a lot to do with the company’s performance.

9. One of Buffet’s biggest strengths is independent thinking. Many people go by what the experts says or what others do but belief in one’s own judgement is the key to stock market success.

10. Patience pays, says Buffet. He says one must not worry too much about the price of the stocks. What’s more important is the nature of business of the company, earnings capability and its future potential.

Good investors never rush to make money. They give time, thought and work on investment decisions. The mistakes that others make should be a lesson for you.







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