Cigarette smoking is a personal choice. However, if you are deciding to stop smoking, you may already realize that quitting needs more than willpower or scaring yourself with statistics of why smoking is bad.

Usual smoking termination systems often don’t work in the long term because they do not address the real reasons that people smoke. Listed below are five often unidentified reasons that people smoke. These reasons might surprise you.

Before you engage in your stop smoking process, take some time and identify the important underlying drives of why you choose to smoke. By understanding those real reasons, you can generate a personalized stop smoking plan that incorporates new strategies of coping and dealing with life.

1. Smoking Is a Lifestyle Coping Tool

For many people, smoking is a reliable lifestyle coping tool. Although every person’s specific reasons to smoke are unique, they all share a common theme. Smoking is used as a way to suppress uncomfortable feelings, and smoking is used to alleviate stress, calm nerves, and relax. No wonder that when you are deprived of smoking, your mind and body are unsettled for a little while.

Below is a list of some positive intentions often associated with smoking. Knowing why you smoke is one of the first steps towards quitting. Check any and all that apply to you.

• Smoking is pleasant and relaxing
• Acceptance – being part of a group
• As a way to socialize
• Provides support when things go wrong
• Smoking is stimulating
• A way to look confident and in control
• Keeps weight down
• Rebellion – defining self as different or unique from a group
• Something to do with your mouth and hands
• Shutting out stimuli from the outside world
• Shutting out emotions from the inside world
• Something to do just for you and nobody else
• A way to shift gears or changes states
• A reminder to breathe
• An way to feel confident
• A way to shut off distressing feelings
• A way to deal with stress or anxiety
• A way to get attention
• Marking the beginning or the end of something
• Coping with anger, stress, anxiety, tiredness, or sadness

2. Smoking Tranquilizer

The habit of cigarette smoking is often used to tranquilize emotional issues like anxiety, stress, or low self-esteem. In addition, smoking provides comfort to people with conditions of chronic pain and depression. Smokers with emotional stress or chronic pain often turn to smoking as an attempt to treat their pain. For instance, they may use it to reduce anxiety, provide a sense of calmness and energy, and elevate their mood.

The mental association between smoking and pain relief can make quitting quite difficult, as can the increased short-term discomfort that quitting smoking adds to a person already suffering with chronic pain, depression, or emotional distress. What are effective ways for people with chronic pain – whether physical or emotional – to make the decision to quit smoking? First, evidence shows that in people who suffer chronic pain, smokers have more pain than nonsmokers do. Also, accept that smoking cessation may indeed make you feel worse in the short run, but may be key to regaining enough vitality to live fully with pain.

3. The Feel Good Syndrome

Smoking is a way to avoid feeling unpleasant emotions such as sadness, grief, and anxiety. It can hide apprehensions, fears, and pain. This is accomplished partly through the chemical effects of nicotine on the brain.

When smoking, the release of brain chemicals makes smokers feel like they are coping and dealing with life and stressful emotional situations. Nicotine brings up a level of good feelings. Cigarette smokers are aware when nicotine levels and good feelings begin to decrease, and light up quickly enough to stay in their personal comfort zone. However, they may not realize that avoiding their feelings is not the same as taking positive steps to create a life of greater potential and meaning.

Perhaps these emotional responses are due not to withdrawal, but due to an increased awareness of unresolved emotions. If smoking dulls emotions, logically quitting smoking allows awareness of those emotions to bubble up to the surface. If emotional issues aren’t resolved, a smoker may feel overwhelmed and eventually turn back to cigarettes to deal with the uncomfortable feelings.

4. Smoking Makes You Feel Calm and Alive

Smokers often say that lighting up a cigarette can calm their nerves, satisfy their cravings, and help them feel energized. Indeed, nicotine in tobacco joins on to receptors in your brain that release “feel good” chemicals that can make you feel calm and energized all at once. Smoking acts as a drug, inducing a feeling of well-being with each puff. But, it’s a phony sense of well-being that never produces a permanent satisfying or fulfilling result. Smoking lures you into believing that you can escape some underlying truth or reality. However, smoking doesn’t allow you to actually transform your day-to-day life and live connected to your deeper hopes and dreams.

Instead, when you smoke, the carbon monoxide in the smoke bonds to your red blood cells, taking up the spaces where oxygen needs to bond. This makes you less able to take in the deep, oxygen-filled breath needed to bring you life, to active new energy, to allow health and healing, and bring creative insight into your problems and issues.

5. You Are In The Midst Of Transition

If you previously quit smoking, and then resumed the habit once again, consider the idea that perhaps you are in the midst of some “growing pains.” Perhaps you were feeling dissatisfied with some aspect of your life and contemplating making change. However, developing spiritually, emotionally, and physically brings with it the experience of discomfort. Old beliefs rise up, creating sensations of hurt, pain, sadness, anxiety, and uneasiness. You were feeling dissatisfied, restless, ready to change, but then felt the fear that change often ignites.

Smoking provides an escape from those uncomfortable feelings. However, smoking also brings an abrupt halt to personal transformation and the evolution of self. Although painful, these feelings are necessary in your personal development. Learning to accept feelings in a new way can help lead you out of disempowering or limiting beliefs, and into a life filled with greater happiness, satisfaction, contentment, or purpose. When you stop smoking and start breathing – conscious, deep, smoke-free, oxygen-filled breaths – your evolution will start up once again.

Why Do You Smoke?

If you smoke, then you do so because the act of smoking is personally meaningful to you. Therefore, if you are considering quitting, take some time and explore the reasons underlying your decision to smoke. Become interested, observe yourself, and get curious. Allow yourself an opportunity to turn into a smoking journalist, ready to uncover an intriguing mystery. Before lighting up your next cigarette, ask yourself:

a. What would I do with the energy that is freed up from smoking cessation?

b. How will smoking help or change the situation?

c. What situations make me smoke the most?

d. What emotions or feelings am I trying to avoid or deny?

e. If I didn’t smoke right now, what would I feel? How would I handle that feeling?

f. What positive functions do I believe smoking provides me?

The most important factor in stopping smoking is a genuine desire to stop smoking. You were not a born smoker; it’s something you learned to do. Learning new ways of coping with stress is possible, as is learning new ways to relax and raise confidence levels. Use the reasons presented above as clues to uncover the underlying reasons why you smoke. Then, in addition to making a firm decision to stop smoking, also make a compact plan to address your underlying needs. You’re not only kicking the habit, you’re also creating a new balance with your body, mind, and self!

In the competitive era of business today it is imperative that all your written work be accurate and concise. Be it’s sales letters, brochures, newsletters, or daily correspondence,clients and prospects will measure your company’s professionalism by the quality ofyour marketing material.

• Keep your writing simple and easy to read.

• Vary sentence length and arrangement.

• Use active voice whenever possible. A passive voice slows the pace and the reader.

Active voice: Our Company produces ten thousand widgets each month.

Passive voice: Ten thousand widgets are produced each month by our company.

• Use positive statements.

Positive: As a leader in total home security, Trusty Alarms can protect your investment.

Negative: No other security company can protect your investment like T rusty Alarms.

• Keep verb tenses consistent and understandable.

Common verb tense errors:

I should have went to their office yesterday. [should have gone]

The dog has bit the boy seriously. [has bitten]

• Use strong nouns and verbs to eradicate as many adjectives and adverbs as possible.

• Write to “express,” not “impress” the reader. If the right word is long, use it, but if a shorter word will do, use the shorter word.

• Ensure that your words can’t be misinterpreted; e.g., the senior citizens were reluctant to book their holiday to the “hot” destination described by the travel agent.

• Get to the point and finish.

• Never state the obvious as it wastes words; e.g., never begin a sentence with “I am writing you…” of course you are, start right in.

• Avoid wishy-washy openings; e.g., Do you like…

• Avoid clichés. Tired expressions such as “a good time was had by all” are annoying and lack creativity.

• Write the way you talk. Keep the tone conversational, but grammatical.

• Read everything out loud. If you stumble over a word or phrase – revise it.

• Proofread for spelling and grammatical errors.

Ananda in the Himalayas
Uttaranchal, India

The location: This 100-acre estate in the foothills of the Himalayas, formerly home to the Maharajah of Tehri-Garhwal, is set at 3,000 feet and has sweeping views over the Ganges River and the nearby temple villages of Rishikesh and Haridwar. The facilities include a 21,000-square-foot spa, several meditation and yoga pavilions set among gardens, and the former maharajah’s palace—which now houses an elegant tea lounge and an antique billiards room.

The practice: One-on-one guided meditation sessions tailored to each guests’s individual needs. Sessions can incorporate Buddhist teachings or yogic breathing techniques, can be conducted indoors or out, and can last from an hour to an entire morning or afternoon at a stretch.

The accommodations: 78 posh rooms, suites, and villas with huge windows for taking in the mountain views (and, unusually for retreat destinations, minibars and televisions).

Be mindful: A not-especially-spiritual crowd frequents Ananda. Although serious peace-seekers will find what they want here, they’ll also be rubbing shoulders with jet-setting comfort hounds.

Shambhala Mountain Center
Red Feather Lakes, Colorado

The location: The 600 pristine acres of Shambhala spread across a Rocky Mountain valley in the northern part of Colorado. The property includes extensive botanical gardens, a bird sanctuary, several spacious meditation halls, and, most dramatically, the Great Stupa of Dharmakaya, a traditional spired Buddhist shrine.

The practice: Buddhist meditation in a variety of forms. The program offerings at Shambhala range from week-long “Learn to Meditiate” retreats to multi-week intensive study for advanced practitioners; there are also specialized workshops for children, painters, and writers, and those who prefer to combine meditation with activities like canoeing and hiking.

The accommodations: 65 elegant, clean-lined single and double rooms, some of which have shared bathrooms. Single-sex dormitory-style rooms, and in the summer, platform tents with shared bathhouses, are also available.

Be mindful: The staff at Shambhala also leads “Sacred Journeys” several times a year in places like Bhutan, Nepal, Tibet, and Mongolia.

The Middle Way Meditation Retreat
Loei, Thailand

The location: A compound surrounded by rolling green hills and lush tropical forest in northeastern Thailand (adjacent to Phu Ruea National Park, where the woodland-covered mountains are crisscrossed with hiking trails). The property encompasses several indoor and outdoor meditation spaces, waterfall-fed gardens, and an outdoor dining pavilion.

The practice: Dhammakaya meditation, a form of Tibetan Buddhist practice that focuses on the center of the body as both an energy center and a gateway to higher consciousness.

The accommodations: A cluster of spartan but immaculate wooden bungalows, with separate shared bathhouses. Fraternizing between sexes is discouraged, so men’s and women’s ungalows are in different areas.

Be mindful: Guests are expected to refrain from all destructive behavior while on the retreat, including telling lies and killing any living creature (including mosquitoes).

White Cloud Sanctuary
Santa Ana, Costa Rica

The location: Just west of San José in central Costa Rica, on a jungle mountainside that feels a world away from civilization. The 13-acre property includes a small organic vegetable farm; several outdoor practice areas; mango, banana, and papaya trees (which guests can pick from as they like); and lots of friendly resident animals, including horses, goats, ducks, and rabbits.

The practice: Only one guest at a time can stay at White Cloud, which allows for intense individual study in Tai Chi and QiGong—Chinese meditation-in-movement practices. Retreat participants adhere to a daily schedule of guided sessions and quiet seated meditation.

The accommodations: A one-person tile-roofed casita, set at the very top of the property and with glorious mountain views. It includes a single bed, a kitchen, a bathroom, and a living area where, oddly, you can plug in your laptop.

Be mindful: The lodging rates don’t include meals, although meal-plan options can be arranged.

Osho Meditation Resort
Pune, India

The location: A slick, modern 40-acre “campus” just outside Mumbai that includes extensive, manicured Zen gardens, a soaring meditation auditorium, seminar spaces set inside a complex of black space-age pyramids, and a few other very unorthodox amenities: tennis courts, a nightclub, and a mini-mall.

The practice: “Active meditations” are the signatures at Osho. Although traditional silent, seated sessions are practiced here, they’re interspersed with meditative dancing, whirling, vocalizing, and power-breathing.

The accommodations: The Osho Guesthouse’s 60 minimalist-chic double rooms could easily be mistaken for W Hotel accommodations—that is, without the TVs.

Be mindful: All guests at Osho must wear dark red robes during meditation sessions. This has to do with the belief of the resort’s founder (also named Osho) that “the color maroon, when worn by many people meditating together, adds to the collective meditative energy.”

Instead of planning your wedding on a weekend night, instead have it during the day on the weekend or even on a weekday evening. Most venues and banquet halls charge exponentially higher prices on Saturday nights.

Having a sponsored wedding is a great way to save money on your wedding. A sponsored wedding is just like a regular wedding, however sponsors are used to offset some of the costs. If you limit the sponsors and keep it classy, a sponsored wedding can be virtually identical to a non-sponsored wedding.

Oftentimes, food is a major percentage of a wedding budget. However, that doesn’t always have to be the case. You can easily limit the food at your wedding. Have a buffet instead of a sit down meal. Or to save even more money, you can serve only drinks and desserts at your wedding reception. Although, be sure to indicate on your wedding invitation what will be served at the wedding.

Using silk flowers instead of fresh flowers will help reduce your wedding costs. Silk flowers are normally a little cheaper than fresh and you can re-use silk flowers for years to come. If you enjoy the fragrance of fresh flowers, you can have the bridal bouquet done in your favorite fresh flowers. Then use silk flowers for the centerpieces and other decorations.

Popular wedding reception facilities book up quickly for evening weddings. However, you can sometimes find afternoon or mid-morning hours available at a cut rate. A Saturday afternoon wedding can be a terrific option, particularly for an outdoor garden wedding.

Beautiful wedding favors don’t have to be expensive. You can make your own wedding favors by placing almonds, candies, mints and other treats in small tins and other packages. Truly Wedding Favors offers a terrific collection of wedding favor bags, boxes and tins at cheap prices.

It can be tempting to invite anyone and everyone to your wedding. That said, limiting your guest list is the easiest way to save money on your wedding. The fewer guests you invite, the more money you can save. Limiting your wedding to close friends and family can be a enormous money saver.

1. Look

The overall look of a car tells you a lot about how it has been used. It is difficult to keep a car from minor scratches and dings given the state of traffic in cities and these do not cost much to fix.

So examine the interiors, the engine bay and the spare tyre compartment. If they are clean and well maintained, the owner is likely to have taken reasonably good care of the car.

But if a car looks battered and shabby, it has probably not been sufficiently cared for. Check for rust spots around the windshields and under the wheel arches.

Check the underbody too, ideally on a ramp. If there are rust spots, these could grow over time. If there are blisters in the paint or the coat is uneven, they are likely because of a shoddy repaint job, maybe after an accident.

Look carefully at the tyres. If there is little tread left, they will have to be replaced soon.

A full set will cost upwards of Rs 5,000. If the tread wear is uneven, then there is a problem with the suspension, which may be expensive to fix. It could also be due to body problems that you may not be able to fix at all.

2. Feel

Never buy a used car without driving it first. Start and rev the engine. If there is too much smoke coming out of the tailpipe, the engine could need an overhaul. That would set you back Rs 10,000-20,000 for a small car. Vary the speeds as you would under normal driving conditions.

If the seller fixes the first two and the problem continues, there is probably an issue with the body that you may not be able to fix. Try an emergency brake.

If the earlier problems exist, the car is likely to pull to one side under the mano-euvre.

If acceleration and, especially, deceleration lags well behind your accelerator inputs, then the engine or the clutch is packing up. The latter can set you back by Rs 3,000-4,000.

Let go of the steering at moderate speeds. If the car is pulling to any side, it may be because the wheels are not aligned and/or balanced, bent wheel rims, or an accident fixed badly. If this problem exists, the steering is likely to wobble at higher speeds of, say, 80 kph plus.

If there is too much of it, repairs could be costly. A car should feel right when you drive it. If it doesn’t, it is probably not for you.

If the tyres are bald, braking dista-nce could be long. A drive will also show the car’s squeaks and rattles.

3. Electricals and meters

Operate all the switches, lights and check the meters. Also, switch on the air-conditioner/heater if there is one. If it does not cool/heat, then it may need to be overhauled. Check the mileage on the odometer.

Small cars usually become due for an engine overhaul around 100,000 km. Stay away from cars that are close to or over that. Low milers are best, sometimes the odometer is tinkered with, especially at a used car dealership. Compare with the service papers to see whether they are in agreement.

Also check the driver’s seat. On high-milers it will show signs of wear and sag. If it does and the odo reads low, stay away.

4. Papers

You could bring this right up to the first stage. Unless these are in order, never touch a car. These include registration, insurance and pollution compliance certificate.

Next check service history. Ideally, do not buy a car without full service history. In fact, if you can get a full service history and the car drives right, it is worth considering a buy. Also, check insurance papers.

If there has been no-claim bonuses every year the car has probably not been in an accident. Finally, try to avoid cars that are more than five years old.

Every car goes through normal wear and many of the parts become due for routine replacement. Niggles also increase this time.

Happy hunting!